Why Oh Why?
I am at my wit’s end here. I’m on the edge of the cliff and about to jump…..
Why oh why can’t my husband ever follow things through to completion?
We have:
- A partially cleaned out garage.
- A deck that has been 1/5 refinished, 3 times now. The same 1/5th over and over because he never gets past that step
- Rooms repainted but yet the trim still unfinished
- Crown molding put up but the caulking….you got it…..unfinished.
And nothing ever gets put away.
- The brushes from painting are still out
- The deck cleaner is still out on the back deck.
- Laundry folded but not put away. It’s family room decoration at this point
When he straightens up? Can someone please explain to him that taking the things from any given room and assembling them in a pile in the corner of the room is NOT straightening up? These piles would grow into dependants if I didn’t go through them regularly and THROW OUT the things that should have been thrown out in the first place.
And yes, I know I could put these things away to begin with, but it’s so completely frustrating. If I take on a task, I do it from start to finish. I don’t ask for help with it either. To me, if you’re not going to do something to completion, why bother at all?
And yes (again) I realize I am lucky that he’ll even do any single part of the laundry. But still, why oh why? Can’t he finish one single, solitary thing?
Side note: I’m excited to announce something to everyone tomorrow. I hope you’ll stop by to learn more about it!
@staceysmoments on twitter.
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LOL If he’s like my husband, he will eventually stomp through the house looking for a screwdriver and complain that nothing ever gets put away!! It drives me bonkers. We have four tape measures because he keeps buying them when he can’t find the others he never put away in the middle of whatever project is half done.
We have a partially finished gazebo, one sheetrocked room in the basement and don’t get me started on his den!
Stacey M´s last blog ..The Human Vacuum
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 9:43 PM
Okay, you may have it worse than me! lol
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@AmyatGITR on twitter.
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Hmm, the bigger issue is that I think we may be married to the same man.
amie´s last blog ..Down
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Didn’t know my husband had another family in Jersey.
DG at Diaryofamadbathroom´s last blog ..This is What Happens When You Don’t Take No For An Answer
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 9:57 PM
Yes, and tell him that I’m stil waiting for the paint supplies to be put away. The cleaning lady comes tomorrow!
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@honeybeeblog on twitter.
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I think Amie said it, the real issue is that we’re all married to the same man! My husband will ‘clean up’ which involves stacking and stacking and more stacking. I hate stacking!
Honey B.´s last blog ..The Beginning of the Baby Bucket List Project
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 10:06 PM
ME TOO! Sometimes I wonder how high they would get if I didn’t intercept the way I do!
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@HeatherM74 on twitter.
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Mine too – now tell me how would they like it if the dishes were half done or the floor half vacuumed or the toilet only cleaned on 1/2. Ok, he cleans the toilets, I can’t complain about that. LOL
Heather´s last blog ..Thanksgiving by Jordan
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 10:09 PM
Hmm…that experiment could be worth a shot!
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LOL, I think all men are the same!! Hahaha! I have yet to find one that will complete anything.
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Didn’t you know that a penis automatically means non completion??
Lee the Hot Flash Queen´s last blog ..Sunday Stealing
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 10:17 PM
That would explain issues with my sex life too. Thank you so much!
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@orangepeelings on twitter.
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Hee hee…my husband’s idea of cleaning the tv room consists of piling all the toys in the corner. Must be a male trait! But heck, I’ll take any help I can get because it doesn’t happen all that often!
Dawn´s last blog ..Family tradition…and someone else’s family tradition
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Of course I’ll be back tomorrow, i follow ya, so my little do-dad will remind me to find out the big news.
as for you husband, my dad was exactly like that, he was amazing one so many things, but yeah, never finished anything! my mom would about lose her mind over it….however, we all survived….barely, but we did. You just have to find the bright side of all of this…like if those piles DO turn into dependents you’ll get a break on your taxes…and maybe it’ll be enough to hire a cleaning lady? what do you think?
Husbands are a breed all of their own….men in general…they are something…sometimes we don’t know WHAT, but they are sumthin!
~hl~
{www.hoscorners.blogspot.com}
HeatherLynn´s last blog ..Breaking up:
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 10:19 PM
Yes, they ARE something. What? I have no clue.
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LOL! Something in their genetic code. I should take a picture of my husband’s “Man Cave” and post it. There’s still stuff in there from LAST CHRISTMAS. Or garage is a hell hole. Pretty much anything that is considered “his area” when it comes to household responsibilities is unfinished, disorganized, and looks like crap.
existentialwaitress´s last blog ..Happy Thanksgiving!
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@pixielation on twitter.
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My husband seems to think that no matter what he does, it’s my job to put it away afterwards.
pixielation´s last blog ..Mummy wants a new tattoo
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 10:45 PM
He must not have read the fine print on the marriage license.
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@mommywords on twitter.
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Do not open any closets after my hubby picks up. And never assume that anything is back where it is supposed to be. Ever.
Brittany at Mommy Words´s last blog ..This Babe is Too Close to the Holidays!
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 10:48 PM
I will remember that when I come to visit
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I am beginning to think all men are pulled aside before they walk down the aisle and told they never have to complete a job again..becaue they know eventually we will crack and clean up their mess!
Modernmom´s last blog ..Passive Aggressive Letters. . . . with Love
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@trinmom on twitter.
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I am blessed with a husband who will in fact clean. And some things he does well! Other things? Ohhhh…. we could go on forever…
Like why he’ll pile heavy dishes on top of smaller delicate things in the sink. Or put greasy pots on top of glasses. Or never put his folded laundry away. Or manage to disorganize my pantry when he decides to put away groceries… Seriously… this list could go on and on…
Mom of Three´s last blog ..Sundays In My City – The Queen is here
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 10:56 PM
Mine does domestic things but never completes them He’ll vacuum but won’t put the vacuum away. He’ll unload the dishwasher, but leave the utensil basket on the middle of the island filled with everything and the pots and pans piled there too. The laundry he will fold but not put those away either.
Ugh, I’m getting myself mad again here.!
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@trinmom on twitter.
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Wash towels with regular clothes. Seems especially fond of doing this with black clothes.
Throw his dirty clothes on the floor or drape them across all the furniture.
Really. I need to stop now.
I might need therapy.
Lol.
Mom of Three´s last blog ..Sundays In My City – The Queen is here
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 10:59 PM
Something tells me you and I could talk for hours on this topic!
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You ask an age old question my friend, and I’m afraid there is no answer. I have realized with my own husband that the more I remind him of an unfinished job, the lower it goes on his list.
I also realized that if the job is not near and dear to my hubbie’s heart, it won’t be completed in a timely manner. I am still living with my bathroom not complete-it is painted and molding was put up (without calking)but the new tub surround, floor, sink, and toilet are far into the future I guess. However, when his hot tub went on the fritz, he spent countless hours getting it back up and running. (Hmm…I was going to add a laugh to this reply, but now it doesn’t seem too funny!)
susan´s last blog ..Mommy Overload
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 11:02 PM
I’m laughing for you. So typical, huh?
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Why, oh why indeed! I ask myself the same question every single day. If you find a good answer, will you let me know?
Zen Mom´s last blog ..Is It Monday Yet?
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Are we married to the same man? By the time Hubs gets around to finishing the painting in a room, it’s time to do the whole thing again. Honestly, I hire out most of the work around here.
kys´s last blog ..Take Over: A Guest Post
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 11:04 PM
Does yours not put anything he uses in the bathroom either? Just trying to see if it is the same man.
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kys
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 11:07 PM
Nope. Never. We have separate bathrooms and he will scavange my stuff rather than open a drawer to find a new saline solution (or bar of soap or whatever) for himself.
kys´s last blog ..It’s Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 11:16 PM
Twins maybe?
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@thinkspin on twitter.
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My husband and son think that stacked dishes in the sink is a form of modern art.
Lauren´s last blog ..The World Toilet Assn. and other Flushable Facts.
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 11:06 PM
Which reminds me of the modern art I once found in the sink of a friend’s house when I was in my twenties. She hadn’t done her dishes in so long that vegetation was growing in the bottom of her sink. Awful!
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Lauren
@thinkspin on twitter.
Replied on : December 1st, 2009 at 8:51 AM
Yuck! That sounds more like a science experiment.
Lauren´s last blog ..Links for 2009-11-29 [Digg]
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Girl, I think it’s just a “man thing.” Most men I know are like this. And I hate to say it, but they will never learn to finish thier tasks. Why, you ask? Because they will never be as smart as us women. We know that once you start something, you gotta FINISH that something!
-Jen
NathanRising´s last blog ..Baby Kisses
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 11:07 PM
I think we have longer attention spans too. Just my own personal theory there.
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Honestly I can’t complain – in many ways my husband is a perfectionist (which has it’s own complete set of disadvantages), but he does a mean sink full of dishes which I loathe, so that makes me very happy!
Kristin
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 11:09 PM
Can I borrow him??
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i feel your pain–lol
maroon skye´s last blog ..Christmas card ideas anyone?
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@beths_confusion on twitter.
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I am so guilty of the straightening up by moving things or simply creating “neater” piles of things. ::hanging head in shame:: On a bonus we do finish our projects around here, it just might take weeks or years.
beth aka confusedhomemaker´s last blog ..Le Creuset Giveaway: Food Made in Love
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we are married to the same man. i hate it when hubs starts a project and not only doesn’t finish it, but leaves all his tools out! i always end up putting everything away because i just can’t stand it. or…chews out the kids for leaving their stuff out when he is guilty of the SAME THING!!!! how does he expect them to learn to pick up after themselves if he sets such a poor example?!
thanks for letting me vent. i could go on and on…
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Nancy
@ifevolution on twitter.
Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 11:14 PM
Feel free to keep venting!
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Oh boy, this must go on in every household! If I posted a photo of the inside of our garage that my husband has been promising to clean out for three years, you guys would freak. Thank God it isn’t attached to the house so I rarely have to look at it!
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I am right there with you! I love my husband’s enthusiasm to start a project – I just wish he’d follow it to completion. Case in point – our Christmas lights. He got all excited this weekend to put lights in the trees (a look I love). Each tree is now half-way decorated (they look like Charlie Brown trees) because he “ran out of time” and one of the strings of lights went out (in the middle, of course) and “it’s too late now” <–his words, not mine. Sigh.
Jane´s last blog ..A World Where Skin Color Is Of No Consequence
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Yup, this sounds like one big episode of Big Love here. Has to be the same guy. I want pictures.
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@submom on twitter.
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I second, or third or Nth that! Big Love all around here. Woo child.
submom´s last blog ..The Internet has changed forever what we take pictures of…
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my husband is the opposite. it is great to have a detail and goal oriented husband and very frustrating when he is unable or unwilling to stop in the middle of something to care for our children’s immediate needs. additionally, i think i have some of the non-finisher tendencies leaving him more well suited to commiserate with you. i would love to finish everything i start but
magda´s last blog ..For Our Little Elves
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AMEN to your post! Atleast your husband starts!!! My husband does not even start on his to do list until WWIII breaks out in our house! damn these men!
areeba lakhat´s last blog ..Packing for a NON All-Inclusive Vacation…
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@hrtsmakefamily on twitter.
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Can someone please explain why these piles are always in the worst spot to be seen? And when did my husband get married again?? cuz I think you married mine lol.
Tami @ HeartsMakeFamilies´s last blog ..Magical Moments on Tuesday
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@MandaBlogsAbout on twitter.
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My husband is exactly the same and it drives me crazy! Nothing is EVER finished or put back in the right place. There are piles everywhere and I know that they would stay there forever if I didn’t put things away myself or yell at him for a week to get the stuff out of the kitchen or the bedroom or the bathroom!
I just subscribed by email so I won’t be able to forget to check you out anymore.
I havn’t stopped by your blog in awhile and I just wanted to say hi and see what you were blogging about lately.
Manda ´s last blog ..Christmas Meme – Getting to Know You
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