When Gossip Attacks
I heard a story the other day and I can not get it out of my head. Nothing about it involves me, but it upsets me to no end.
Early last fall a local family moved away to a nearby town. Our sons played together. We had gone to the beach together as families. I shopped with her, did “mom night’s” with her. Our husbands helped each other out with projects. The friendship though started to fade away about 2 or 3 years ago.
The husband works for an auto dealership and she works part time. Their house was small but impeccable. Everything updated, beautifully furnished. They were amazing and gracious hosts and always having friends and neighbors over for parties and holidays. The wife was also always impeccably dressed. I envied her clothing and sense of style.
The way I had originally heard it, they had listed their home for sale and it was purchased faster than they were prepared for. They decided to move in with the husband’s parents in a nearby town until they found a new home to move into. The children were pulled from the town’s school and we have not seen them since.
The other day I was at a friend’s home and she told me a different story. Completely different story.
Apparently the wife was in charge of the family’s finances. She fell behind in the bills because as the old adage goes: You can’t spend more than you earn. She hid this from the husband. She then went and refinanced the house back to the bank but couldn’t keep up with the payments then either. All hidden. Until the bank foreclosed on the home. They owed more money than the house was even worth and even in living with family, they are struggling financially.
I guess stories of foreclosure and people struggling financially are nothing new in this economy. Who isn’t hurting right now?
However. this is where it even becomes more of a soap opera. She owned up to having an affair that had been going on for 4 years.
How must the husband have felt on hearing all of this? To have no idea that he was losing his house? To find out that his wife had been having a long term affair? I can’t imagine…….
Gossip…..stinks. I can’t help but feel badly even for the wife. I wish them nothing but a brighter future.
Now I get why.
@beths_confusion on twitter.
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Sounds like they had some major communication issues & how sad now to have their marriage struggles being put out there (of course sadder still that they had such major struggles) so I agree Gossip Stinks!
.-= beth aka confusedhomemaker´s last blog ..Where Does The Time Go? =-.
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Geez-that is a hard one to take. Why is it that the people whom we most want to emulate are the people who are secretly worse off than we are? A couple my husband and I knew and went out with were always lovey-dovey to the point that it made us uncomfortable. We always thought, “What’s wrong with us?” but we now know that they are getting a divorce-that public affection was all show. I guess you never truly know someone.
As for the gossip, I too pity both of them, especially now…
.-= susan´s last blog ..Many questions, no answers… =-.
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What a mess! Can you imagine the things that family must be going through, all for — what? — keeping up with the jones’? Having all the best things, only to lose it all…sad. And the affair, well that just kind of puts the icing on the cake. Or the mud on the shoe, more like. But it kind of makes sense when you consider all the difficulties she was trying to hide, that she’d have to go SOMEwhere for consolation. It’s just a shame she couldn’t find that consolation within her family so they could have all worked everything out together. Because losing your home sucks…but losing your family is worse.
I’m hoping this is more gossip than truth…because it’s too sad.
.-= Sarah @ This Heavenly Life´s last blog ..If This Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words =-.
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This is such a sad story. I hate hearing things like this because it reminds me how fragile our lives and happiness really are. And how much there is beneath the surface of any family’s life, if you look deeply enough. Good reminder though to appreciate what I have.
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@AmyatGITR on twitter.
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There is probably even more to the story than you will ever know. I just learned some news about a couple that I thought was perfect and had it all. When I hear stuff like that it hurts me to the core. I don’t know why but it does. I think I just want to believe in the myth that some people are perfect and I am the screw-up.
.-= amy´s last blog ..Cause You Love My Boobs And I Love You =-.
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Wow…that is sad all the way around. I do hope they find a way to come through it all.
.-= Richele´s last blog ..Review: Molly’s Money-Saving Digest Jan. 2010 =-.
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How sad….
.-= Lee the Hot Flash Queen´s last blog ..Conversations – Part V =-.
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@goodgirlgonered on twitter.
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Wow. I was coming by to say how gossip can floor a person, especially when it’s about them. But this story put mine into a totally different perspective. I can’t even BEGIN to imagine. Wow.
.-= Andrea´s last blog ..Mellow Monday =-.
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sad
.-= maroon skye´s last blog ..One of my favorite events… =-.
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That just flat out sucks.
.-= arizona mamma´s last blog ..When is Your Birthday? These Awards May be for You! =-.
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This is so sad for everyone involved – especially the kids!
.-= Jane´s last blog ..To Are Or Not To Are – THAT Is The Question =-.
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@trinmom on twitter.
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Ohhh that’s ugly. I hope for the family’s sake that it isn’t true. Although I’m pretty sure that if you’re posting this, you’re pretty convinced you’ve heard from reliable sources…
Money can be a pretty terrible taskmaster… My heart goes out to them.
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wow. you couldn’t write better material for General Hospital.
It’s such a tragedy. I feel so badly for them
.-= terena´s last blog ..Sound Curves =-.
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@genxmomblogger on twitter.
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Gossip stinks, you never knows what is going on behind closed doors, and today’s world is tough!
.-= Dalia (Generation X Mom)´s last blog ..To Purell or not to Purell? =-.
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@staceysmoments on twitter.
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Gossip is just not cool. I think it’s hard to find out someone is not who you thought they were. You just never know what is really going on in someone’s life.
.-= Stacey M´s last blog ..Mostly Wordless Wednesday =-.
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Wow, this is sad. I feel the worst for the children who are really having to pay for their mother’s mistakes. Hopefully they’ll work it all out somehow so they can find happiness again.
.-= Helene´s last blog ..What does ice cream have to do with sex? =-.
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Wow – I guess you just never know what’s really going on behind closed doors. I feel really bad for the husband b/c what a shock that must have all been to lose everything. My heart goes out to him.
.-= existentialwaitress´s last blog ..I love the smell of piss in the morning. =-.
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that IS an such a sad story for all involved. It’s true, nobody ever really knows what goes on inside a person’s head or behind their doors.
.-= mrsblogalot´s last blog ..The 9 to 5 Lesbian =-.
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I live in a very small town and people will make stuff up if there’s no gossip to be had. I hate it!!!!
.-= blueviolet´s last blog ..God Bless the Woman Who Gets This Man =-.
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@hrtsmakefamily on twitter.
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How very tragic.
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The more I’m here, the more I understand that we never really know what goes on behind the doors at everyones homes – we all have our challenges – that’s for sure!
Kristin
.-= kristin´s last blog ..The Truth about Cats & Dogs . . . =-.
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@thinkspin on twitter.
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Horrible for the family. Horrible for you to find out that a friend had a secret life. Very dark, disturbing, and selfish. Instead of spending money on family counseling or date nights with hubby, she spent it on herself.
.-= Lauren´s last blog ..Jimmy Fallon Lost Parody =-.
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@submom on twitter.
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Wow. Sometimes life sounds so unreal doesn’t it? Stranger than fiction.
.-= submom´s last blog ..Do you know what you are reading to your children? =-.
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You’re right. Gossip stinks. How awful to have your failings and weaknesses talked about by people behind your back. Its hard enough to pick yourself up and keep going without feeling that your being judged.
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Nothing like some good ole gossip to ruin someone’s life, huh?
-Jen
.-= NathanRising´s last blog ..Because I’m Tired of Creaking =-.
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