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Too Much Togetherness

13 December 2009 31 Comments

help_keyI’m not sure if it’s the season of craziness or moods or the weather, but two member of this family have been irritable and cranky.  Not me of course, because I am perfect. (Don’t say a word.) It’s my husband and son.  Non stop bickering. I’ve been like Henry Kissinger implementing peace treaties and pacts.

Schedules here are crazy. I’m not sure how families with more than one child juggle all the activities and schedules. At first, I thought I’m just incompetent but when I listed all of my son’s events, life events, holidays, work and family obligations I came to see that as a whole, we are in overwhelm.

So this weekend, with the assistance of crummy weather and plans cancelled due to a friend’s flu symptoms we tried something different. Doing…….N O T H I N G for an entire weekend. I instituted a weekend of family time.

We actually ate meals AT the table and TOGETHER. We played several rounds of Hanukah gift number 2, Connect 4×4.  Set up gift number 1, my son’s IPod Touch. Rented some movies. Cooked together. Hung out together. And for the first time in several weeks, laughed together.

It really was a nice, peaceful family weekend.

The downside? I have not had two minutes to myself. I had to sneak into my office just to grab some alone time. And here I sit, hiding to write a post. Don’t make me go back into the family room where my husband, son and dog are all piled up on the sofa. Don’t make me climb over the ottoman to sit back down in the tiny corner section where I have been sitting for the past hour watching America’s Funniest Videos.

There has got to be something in between chaos and constant togetherness…..

Monday morning can not get here fast enough for me

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  • December 13 2009 at 8:26 PM kristin Klein said:

    hee hee! well, it does sound like so much fun to me, but I know what you mean, you just gotta have a little space and privacy, and time for blogging for heavens’ sake!

    Kristin
    .-= kristin Klein´s last blog ..Fabulously Easy Holiday Dessert =-.

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    Nancy
    @ on twitter.


    Replied on : December 15th, 2009 at 4:12 PM

    Closet blogging?

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  • December 13 2009 at 8:57 PM susan said:

    Sometimes the lazy weekends work for us and sometimes they don’t. Because of ilness we all are not so nice here in my household, so the peaceful togetherness you described won’t be happening. I am envious!
    .-= susan´s last blog ..You’re it! =-.

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  • December 13 2009 at 9:02 PM Lee the Hot Flash Queen said:

    When you figure it out, let me know, will ya?
    .-= Lee the Hot Flash Queen´s last blog ..HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU And THE GREAT REVEAL =-.

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  • December 13 2009 at 9:22 PM DG at Diaryofamadbathroom said:

    Everything is a balancing act. I can never seem to get it right.
    .-= DG at Diaryofamadbathroom´s last blog ..There’s One in Every Family =-.

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  • December 13 2009 at 9:32 PM Nancy Campbell said:

    This is how I feel during all family get together. Can’t. Breathe. Need. My. Alone. Time.

    It’s normal.

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  • December 13 2009 at 9:46 PM submom
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    Here is a late Happy Hanukah wish from me to you and your loved ones! I noticed that your son did get an iPod but not from the tooth fairy, eh? ;-) You know, all the working mothers secretly rejoice on Monday morning when they head to work. LOL.
    .-= submom´s last blog ..Don’t say I didn’t warn you… =-.

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    Nancy
    @ on twitter.


    Replied on : December 15th, 2009 at 7:05 PM

    Thank you so much!!! And yes…he got thar Ipod Touch. Thankfully the Tooth Fairy didn’t blow that one for me :)

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  • December 13 2009 at 10:33 PM Loukia said:

    It’s amazing how it’s non-stop, huh? We really don’t have much time for ourselves at all… that’s the main reason why I love working in an office, outside of the home! But family weekends are the best, are they not? I cherish them!
    .-= Loukia´s last blog ..TOP TEN! Thank you! =-.

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  • December 13 2009 at 10:34 PM Loukia said:

    It’s amazing how we hardly ever get any time to ourselves, huh? That’s the main reason I love working outside of the home, in an office… ‘me’ time! But family weekends are the best, are they not? I cherish them!
    .-= Loukia´s last blog ..TOP TEN! Thank you! =-.

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  • December 13 2009 at 11:25 PM blueviolet said:

    I was watching America’s Funniest Home Videos too! Did you see the one where the two boys were out in the snow and the first one ducked and the second one got hit smack in the face with the snowball? My son and I hit the floor laughing over that!

    My weekdays and weekends are about the same here since the kids are grown.

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    Nancy
    @ on twitter.


    Replied on : December 15th, 2009 at 7:06 PM

    YES!!! We were laughing at that one too. It was one of the few that didn’t seemed so rigged!

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  • December 13 2009 at 11:41 PM existentialwaitress said:

    This time of year is just CRAZY. We had a lazy day today finally b/c we’re all cranky and exhausted. How DOES one balance it all during the holidays?
    .-= existentialwaitress´s last blog ..My favorite Christmas story. Ever. =-.

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    Nancy
    @ on twitter.


    Replied on : December 15th, 2009 at 7:09 PM

    Seperate vacations? Can’t decide if I am joking about this one or not.

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  • December 14 2009 at 10:30 AM jingle said:

    honest about your attitude regarding holiday party time!

    You are super smart, a 5-15 minute break writing a new post, things are entirely different after that!
    Magical, miracles!
    .-= jingle´s last blog ..The Romance of “A Little” and “A Lot” =-.

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  • December 14 2009 at 10:57 AM ModernMom said:

    Sounds like it’s time to take a book and go hide in the bathroom:)
    .-= ModernMom´s last blog ..I could never be a Duggar…. =-.

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    Nancy
    @ on twitter.


    Replied on : December 15th, 2009 at 7:12 PM

    And bring earplugs too.

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  • December 14 2009 at 3:39 PM NathanRising said:

    Ahhhh I miss the days of doing absolutely nothing. Then along came my wonderful son, and those days of doing nothing morphed into days of being so uber busy I don’t even have time to shave my legs every day.

    I miss my smooth legs.
    -Jen
    .-= NathanRising´s last blog ..A Cat’s Addiction =-.

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    Nancy
    @ on twitter.


    Replied on : December 15th, 2009 at 7:17 PM

    Okay, I tried commenting again on your blog and it’s still not working for me. I get:

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  • December 14 2009 at 4:35 PM Jane said:

    Your post made me laugh! The first time we instituted our “un-plugged” Sundays (no TV, Xbox, computer, etc.) the family togetherness about killed me. Sure, we had a blast but later in the day you found me hiding in my closet, checking my blackberry (it was running on batteries so technically unplugged, right?) just to get away. I’m with the kids all week long – We all need a break from that sometimes!
    .-= Jane´s last blog ..Seeing the Good or Seeing the Greed – It’s All a Matter of Choice =-.

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  • December 14 2009 at 4:46 PM threeundertwo said:

    So true! I love Mondays because my dear ones finally get out of my hair! We’ve had pajama Saturdays in the past and they’re great for reconnecting, but sometimes the bickering makes me want to run away from home.
    .-= threeundertwo´s last blog ..Take a Bow! =-.

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  • December 14 2009 at 5:38 PM Zen Mom said:

    I’m all for togetherness…in moderation.

    As of this Friday, I’ll have all my wonderful children home with me for two and a half weeks. I’m afraid. Very afraid.
    .-= Zen Mom´s last blog ..A Change of Heart =-.

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    Nancy
    @ on twitter.


    Replied on : December 15th, 2009 at 7:25 PM

    Oh boy! Good luck to you. If were local’ I’d drop a nice bottle of wine and some bubble bath for you. Sounds like you could use either one or both :)

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  • December 14 2009 at 6:27 PM shraddha said:

    Happy Hanukkah..

    i guess that is what holidays are made of….loved your post..
    .-= shraddha´s last blog ..Avant Grade Bloggies Awards 2009 =-.

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    Nancy
    @ on twitter.


    Replied on : December 15th, 2009 at 7:27 PM

    Thank you Shraddha!

    Happy holidays to you too!

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  • December 14 2009 at 11:00 PM Lauren
    @ on twitter.
     said:

    I’ve taken on the role of Henry Kissinger in my household, too. Sometimes family fun day evolves into a game of monkey in the middle. Guess who’s in the middle? We are a family of three, also, with testosterone levels usually hitting the ceiling. I am outnumbered. Sigh!
    .-= Lauren´s last blog ..OFFICE NOIR =-.

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  • December 15 2009 at 12:13 AM Lauren
    @ on twitter.
     said:

    I am with ya, a compromise would be good! Glad ya stole a few moments to chat with us!
    .-= Lauren´s last blog ..Sound the alarms, my baby is five! =-.

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  • December 15 2009 at 12:57 AM Mi said:

    The heart in the picture on the upper right corner is so big and filled with little hearts inside, but it’s burning at the same time.
    Did some kid really see through you?
    I am with you, holidays are never relaxing.
    .-= Mi´s last blog ..Burnishing is not burnishing~2 =-.

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    Nancy
    @ on twitter.


    Replied on : December 15th, 2009 at 7:40 PM

    That picture was from a foundation website where they sell children’s artwork. I never noticed the little flames Thanks for pointin that out.

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  • December 15 2009 at 8:39 AM Menopausal New Mom said:

    I am so with you on this. for me Monday morning can’t get here fast enough, I just need that hour or two alone to get my head on straight so I can face the day ahead. Think we all have a little of that going on!

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  • December 21 2009 at 3:06 PM LZ said:

    I am so with you…I never thought that my family was together more than any other, but I am quickly realizing that we are. We tend to hang together all weekend, neither one of us is out on weeknights, etc. We laugh nervously when a long weekend comes along because we are always at each other’s throats by the end of the 3 days!
    .-= LZ´s last blog ..Shopping with a 2 year old, again =-.

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