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15 September 2009 38 Comments

whatWho hasn’t spent time mulling through baby names? Didn’t even have to be pregnant or close to being pregnant to do it. It’s right up there with putting your first name with the boyfriend of the moment’s last name…….just to see how it would sound and look on paper.

We went through years of fertility issues. Five to be exact. So I had five years of choosing baby names under my belt by the time my son was born. About three months before my son was born, I went out to lunch with my mom and she asked me if we had chosen any names. Silly question! Of course I had!!!! 

I like clean, short names. I like names that have some kind of significance with in our family. The boy’s name we chose was my father-in-law’s nick name. My husband’s father passed away when my husband was very young and I wanted to honor him.  The girl’s name we chose was after my grandmother. Both names were simple, strong and lovely to both my husband and I.

So proudly and with great thought, I tell my mother………

His first name is going to be Jack.

Silence. Plus the look only your mother knows how to do right. A combination of trying to look like she likes it when you know she doesn’t.  Only my mom isn’t the kind of person to keep her opinion to herself. (So you now know where I get this from.) I’ll spare you what she said, but needless to say I was pretty disappointed.  I told her we hadn’t picked out a girl’s name, because I really didn’t want her to tarnish another name for me. 

The names we ended up with were Kyle and Ava.  We told no one the names until our son was actually born and in our hands.  And when we told my parents their new grandson’s name, Kyle Ian, my mother told me with tears in her eyes “It’s beautiful”.  I was both shocked and incredibly happy that she loved it.

So my question to you…….

Did anyone squash the names that you had selected?

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  • September 15 2009 at 10:25 PM LZ @ My Messy Paradise said:

    It happened to me with my grandfather. He asked if we knew what we’d name our second daughter, and I told him. His response? “As long as you like it, that’s all that matters.”
    .-= LZ @ My Messy Paradise´s last blog ..Even Superman needs practice =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 15th, 2009 at 10:51 PM

    That made me giggle.

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  • September 15 2009 at 10:45 PM Unknown Mami said:

    Oh yeah! If I have another child, I am not sharing the name until the baby is born because after the fact everyone tells you it’s great.
    .-= Unknown Mami´s last blog ..Sundays In My City =-.

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  • September 16 2009 at 12:15 AM Dawn
    @orangepeelings on twitter.
    said:

    Oh yes…countless times! My mom was good at doing that. I swear, she hated every name I told her. Even my husband killed a couple of names that I loved, like Adelaine and Isabella. We kept the name of our third baby kind of quiet, just because it’s one of those things that people seem to think they have a right to criticize. After you name them, people (usually) keep their thoughts to themselves, but before that, it’s open season!

    All in all, I’m very pleased with our children’s names and I’m glad we selected the ones we did.

    Kyle Ian is a great name. Well done! :)
    .-= Dawn´s last blog ..Mommy Magic =-.

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  • September 16 2009 at 12:18 AM Niki said:

    No, I don’t recall anyone saying anything negative about the names we chose.

    By the way, Ava is the name we had chosen if we’d had a second daughter. That name will never be used by us now.
    .-= Niki´s last blog ..Aaa-choooo! =-.

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  • September 16 2009 at 12:42 AM Sharon said:

    Kyle Ian – love it!

    No real problems with the specific names – but was definitely questioned because we gave them Hawaiian names and we are not Hawaiian. We are, however, Hawaiian in spirit! :)
    .-= Sharon´s last blog .. =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 16th, 2009 at 8:12 AM

    That’s pretty cool! What are popular Hawaiian names?

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  • September 16 2009 at 2:15 AM Lana@The Kids Did What?! said:

    When I told my dad that my son’s name was Braden, he replied, “Mmm. That’s pretty unusual. Is it one of those more ethnic names?” …?!?!
    .-= Lana@The Kids Did What?!´s last blog ..Not Me! Monday =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 16th, 2009 at 8:13 AM

    lol @ ethnic. My mom told me Jack sounded like an old person. :( Meanwhile it’s consistently been in the top 30/40 names for the past 10 years. I still love the name Jack.

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  • September 16 2009 at 5:40 AM JosiahsMommy said:

    No one really squashed our names. We had Josiah from the start. I feel very passionatly about naming a child something weird like… Silver?! (a suggestion from this months parents magazine.) Think of the job interviews people! Lol
    .-= JosiahsMommy´s last blog ..My Mom-tionary =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 16th, 2009 at 8:14 AM

    How about Sparrow? Nicole Richie just named her son that!

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  • September 16 2009 at 9:29 AM Loukia said:

    Oh… that is rough! I hate when mothers do that… if my mom doesn’t agree with me or has a problem with something I do, it can totally make me change my mind and I do it her way, still… amazing the influence they have over us! I still ask for her advice and even if I don’t like her answer I usually go with it… grr, sometimes it is frustrating! I wonder if it will be the same with my children and me? Anyway… we knew with our children that if we had a boy first, it would be named after my husband’s dad, and if it was a girl, the girl version of my father-in-law’s name – so, Christina if it were a girl, Christos for a boy. We have a boy. (Duh). With our second child, named him after my father. If it was going to be a girl, it would have been named after my mom.
    .-= Loukia´s last blog ..Random bits of entertainment news =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 16th, 2009 at 11:34 AM

    Your sons have great stong names! think they are both great.

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  • September 16 2009 at 9:29 AM Loukia said:

    Ha… just noticed I called my baby boy an ‘it’. You know I totally menat ‘boy’, right? :)
    .-= Loukia´s last blog ..Random bits of entertainment news =-.

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  • September 16 2009 at 10:28 AM Momisodes said:

    Oh don’t even get me started. My family is awful with their blunt honesty with names. My brother and sister in law don’t like names that start with J, M, or S. Not sure why. And my parents are just as crazy opinionated as well. After 9 months of mulling it over, we finally came down to 1 name for a girl, and NOTHING for a boy.

    Good thing we had a girl.

    This time around, I have no idea what we’re going to do.
    .-= Momisodes´s last blog ..Falling =-.

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  • September 16 2009 at 11:34 AM Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.
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    Oh yes…you have some name decisions to make!!! Good luck with it!

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  • September 16 2009 at 12:06 PM beth said:

    ah! i love this topic, mainly because i like to vent about the injustice i faced. my mother-in-law is totally blunt and i knew flat out if she liked something or not, my mom, too, for that matter. however, when i was pregnant with my twin girls…who were my FOURTH AND FIFTH children…my brother and sister both gave me a hard time. i knew one girl would be kathryn scarlett (totally after scarlett o’hara and because i think little girls named katie are automatically adorable). baby b we were stuck on, though. at one point, we were thinking about mary elizabeth and my sister asked us not to use it as that is one of the names she has picked out if she ever gets pregnant and if said imaginary pregnancy results in a girl. the second name i had picked was fionnaula (pronounced finola and is actually another literary name) and we could call her nola for short. i love this name. my brother and sister in law asked us not to use that because they thought it would be too close to their son finn who is 6 months loder than my girls. needless to say, i was not happy. we decided on kathryn and caroline, which i love and think complement each other nicely. my mother in law told me she didn’t like caroline, but loves cara, so i felt like all parties were pleased in the end. by the way, my second son is baptized john sterling, but he has been jack since day one. great great name. and to me, it is a really cool kid, not an old man. i do love your final decision, though! sorry about the book i just wrote here!
    .-= beth´s last blog ..ahem…(tap, tap, tap)…is this thing on? =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 16th, 2009 at 3:38 PM

    I loved your book! Thanks for sharing it! And the names you picked are lovely!

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  • September 16 2009 at 12:30 PM KathyB! said:

    That’s why you never tell until you’ve already named them!
    .-= KathyB!´s last blog ..Some days it’s all I can do =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 16th, 2009 at 3:39 PM

    Smart lady you are!

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  • September 16 2009 at 1:43 PM Helene said:

    Both my mom and my MIL hated the names we chose with our 1st set of twins. And they had no problem letting us know that. In fact, my mom said “I’ll just find a nickname for them that I like”. HUH? Yeah, whatever. But they both had the same reaction your mom did after the kids were born. Like somehow the names just felt right suddenly.

    With our 2nd set of twins, I didn’t tell anyone right away what names we had chosen mainly because I didn’t want to hear the crap again about no one liking the names.
    .-= Helene´s last blog ..My son….the educator on the birds and the bees =-.

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  • September 16 2009 at 2:17 PM NathanRising said:

    That is why I started telling certain people we were naming our son Ichabod Amadeus and would call him “Icky” for short. When we “changed” our minds to Nathan Victor, no one complained.

    Subliminal manipulation works every time.
    .-= NathanRising´s last blog ..25 Random Facts About Me =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 16th, 2009 at 6:53 PM

    Good thinking on your part. Anything would have sounded better than “icky”.

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  • September 16 2009 at 4:50 PM blueviolet said:

    I didn’t tell a soul for the reasons you mentioned. People will kill a name in 2 seconds flat. I hate that!
    .-= blueviolet´s last blog ..Sleepy Student – W/W Wednesday =-.

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  • September 16 2009 at 6:46 PM susan said:

    Nobody knows just how many people are that interested in your kids names until you start to share. Being a “Susan” was always a drag-so many other kids had the same name, or part of it (Sue, susie). I wanted both my daughter and son to stand out from the crowd, and it was really important that my daughter not have a “girly girl” name. I bought three baby books, and not satisfied with those, eventually went to the baby name sites on the Internet. Here I chose names that reflected my Irish heritage and meant something. (This appeased my mother somewhat.)

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 16th, 2009 at 6:52 PM

    Hi Susan!

    I love Irish names!!

    Just an fyi, when you click your name to see your blog, there’s an extra “p” after the word blog and it comes up as an error. People are missing out on seeing what a great blog you have!

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  • September 16 2009 at 6:51 PM cher said:

    People made fun of my sons name when I was pregnant and I changed it. It was probably for the best, anyways.

    Found you through Mom Bloggers Club and I am now following you!

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  • September 16 2009 at 9:35 PM Amanda
    @BrilliantSulk on twitter.
    said:

    Oh yes. I got plenty of crap. But in the end I didn’t care. My youngest daughter’s middle name is Beatrix.

    NOT a popular pick for my family….
    .-= Amanda´s last blog ..Dude. It’s Called City Living =-.

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  • September 17 2009 at 1:02 AM Tami
    @hrtsmakefamily on twitter.
    said:

    I definitely had squashed names through the years. I thought I was pregnant about 4 times before the hysterectomy. I never was. But I started planning names right away. I had so many different ones. I wanted a son named after my husband, Michael. I wanted a daughter named Amber or Skie. My daughter’s name is Faith because she is my blessing. I loved this post. It is so perfect. Tami (www.heartsmakefamilies.com)

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 17th, 2009 at 8:37 AM

    Thank you, Tami! I enjoy your blog as well!

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  • September 17 2009 at 8:49 AM Gretchen said:

    This is my first time visting your site and I love it! Funny as well as informative and entertaining! I look forward to reading more!
    .-= Gretchen´s last blog ..Chillin’: Summer’s End =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : September 17th, 2009 at 1:15 PM

    Nice to meet you, Gretchen. You have a really great blog and I’ll be visiting often!

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  • September 17 2009 at 10:55 AM Marla said:

    Absolutely! We’re originally from Indonesia, so we had to pick a name that both english speaking people and our family back home can pronounce…. and it’s not easy! My son’s name came up during my 3 hour push and we both are loving it!!

    http://www.mommylicious.net
    .-= Marla´s last blog ..Just a simple statement… but so sweet… =-.

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  • September 17 2009 at 3:56 PM Lorene said:

    I don’t remember anyone squashing the names we choose. We have Robert John, George Dennis, Sydnie Renae Francis, Bridgette Nicole Marilyn. My nephew who turns 2 in October was not a bless child. I think his mom named him just to get a rise out of others. His name is Ai Glen. Pronounced I. I can here the other children teasing him now.

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  • September 17 2009 at 10:01 PM Andrea
    @goodgirlgonered on twitter.
    said:

    This is exactly why we did not tell a soul what our name ideas were! And now that we have a daughter we have still not revealed what the boy’s name would have been, just in case we get around to using it in the future!
    .-= Andrea´s last blog ..A budding photographer? =-.

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  • September 17 2009 at 11:04 PM Shannon said:

    The biggest name squasher in my house was my husband. Every name I chose, he didn’t like. Finally with the 3rd kids, we agreed on a name, but I had a back up name, and once he was born I pronounced we were using the back up name. Of course the whole house called him the wrong name for a few days, but I finally got to pick a name!
    .-= Shannon´s last blog ..It’s Faded But I Don’t Care =-.

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  • September 18 2009 at 4:48 PM Wauzzy said:

    Funny my last blog also is about, baby’s and names.

    We didn’t tell everybody the names we picked out. But my husband gave me a hard time about the names. I really liked a boy’s name when I was first pregnant, but my husband didn’t. So I said the name a few times and it started to grow on him.
    .-= Wauzzy´s last blog ..Boy or girl? Name or no name? =-.

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  • October 1 2009 at 10:18 PM susan said:

    Wow! I didn’t know about the mispell with the address… Thanks for letting me know. I gave your site and award so stop on by my site.
    .-= susan´s last blog ..Time and I are Not Friends =-.

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