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4 October 2009 19 Comments

fallToday my son had a football game in another town. Amazing day for it too. We live in the mountains of New Jersey and the leaves here are gorgeous right now. The weather was perfect too, sunny and mid 70′s.

The parents from our town all congregated on tiny bleachers to talk and watch. It’s really a lot of fun.

Just before the game the coaches and the players on our team warm up on the field and talk about..whatever it is they talk about. The announcer from the home team announces over the PA system that they need our town’s team roster for the game.

I’m watching. None of the coaches move. They just keep on doing what they are doing.

large_peewee08A few minutes pass and the announcer again asks for the team roster. Nothing. I’m thinking at this point that maybe I should go grab the roster and bring it over to the booth.

Yes, a few minutes pass again and the announcer asks for it yet one more time. But this time he’s annoyed.  Our head coach waves at him. (Read: “You’ll get it, I’m busy.”)

I say to the people I am sitting with “Well, I’m glad to see it’s a guy thing and not just my husband. Why don’t men acknowledge they heard you the first time around?” And I’m thinking, I wonder if the announcer responds to HIS wife the first time she asks something?

Why don’t they respond the first time around? Seriously, even a head nod or shake would suffice. I just don’t get it. But it does make me feel a little better to know that it’s not just MY husband that has selective hearing.

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  • October 4 2009 at 6:51 PM blueviolet said:

    I hear you. I don’t even care about the answer anymore. I just want the acknowledgment that I spoke.

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    Nancy
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    Replied on : October 4th, 2009 at 9:28 PM

    EXACTLY!!!!!

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  • October 4 2009 at 7:02 PM Dawn
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    Definitely a man thing…even my 5 year old son has started doing that. It’s so frustrating. Then they get mad if you get mad. “I heard you!” Well, why the heck didn’t you say anything??? Argh.
    .-= Dawn´s last blog ..Sunday in my city! =-.

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    Nancy
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    Replied on : October 4th, 2009 at 9:29 PM

    It’s like they are in a zone. Just give SOME sign of life!

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  • October 4 2009 at 9:18 PM Mom of Three
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    Oh that drives me crazy!!!! And the thing is, I’ve learned to just let it go unless it’s really important, only to get hit with the “I heard you! I’m thinking about it!” And then, when the situation comes up, I’m still met with “You never told me anything about this!” Grrrr….
    .-= Mom of Three´s last blog ..Sundays In My City – Memories of Home =-.

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    Replied on : October 4th, 2009 at 9:30 PM

    It’s a lose/lose situation. Sometimes I’ll throw in a few nonsense words in the middle of talking to him to see if he’s really listening or not :)

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    Replied on : October 4th, 2009 at 10:20 PM

    Lol I think I need to try that. It would at least make it more fun for me!
    .-= Mom of Three´s last blog ..Another Award for Me! Yay! =-.

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  • October 5 2009 at 8:03 AM magda said:

    paaaaaaaaaaainful! any acknowledgment at all that words have been spoken. This “might” curb compelling and unflattering urges to nag and repeat to the point of everyone’s irritation.
    .-= magda´s last blog ..We all need predictability =-.

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  • October 5 2009 at 10:23 AM susan said:

    Wow! I thought it was just a man-woman thing too. I am stunned.
    (btw: check out my new site design if you have time and tell me what you think…)
    .-= susan´s last blog ..What do you think? =-.

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  • October 5 2009 at 10:24 AM Loukia said:

    Hmmm… and I’m noticing the same trait in my 4 year old son, too! ;)
    .-= Loukia´s last blog ..A lesson learned =-.

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    Nancy
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    Replied on : October 5th, 2009 at 11:26 AM

    Noticing it in my son too now that I think about it. I call it “the zone”. When he’s in some kind of fog and unresponsive.

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  • October 5 2009 at 12:56 PM NathanRising said:

    It used to really frustrate me when my husband did this to me… until I started doing it back to my husband. He has learned very quickly how RUDE it is to feel unacknowledged. Then, I just laugh maniacally when he gets upset.

    He has since started acknowledging me more.
    -Jen
    .-= NathanRising´s last blog ..He Likes What? =-.

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    Nancy
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    Replied on : October 5th, 2009 at 1:22 PM

    Good thinking!

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  • October 5 2009 at 3:16 PM Niki said:

    I wonder if it would get their attention if we suddenly started talking about sex in the middle of what we were trying to tell them. :-/

    I didn’t know there were mountains in New Jersey. Hmmm. :-)
    .-= Niki´s last blog ..Housework is Work =-.

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    Nancy
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    Replied on : October 5th, 2009 at 5:11 PM

    Yes there are!! My office faces part of them and I get the nicest sunset views. Come visit!

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  • October 5 2009 at 4:12 PM beth said:

    i’m sorry for everyone else, but i’m really really glad i’m not the only one in this boat!
    .-= beth´s last blog ..life =-.

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    Nancy
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    Replied on : October 5th, 2009 at 5:13 PM

    Let’s make that boat a cruise ship :)

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  • October 6 2009 at 2:20 PM Staci A said:

    You’re definitely not alone. And mine seems to be passing on the trait to our five year old. Oh, yay!

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  • October 9 2009 at 1:43 PM The Crazy Suburban Mom said:

    hehehehe! Now this is funny… so true so true and funny as all get out… I think the vocal cords only kick in after the ears have heard it twice or something like that :)
    .-= The Crazy Suburban Mom´s last blog ..Stuff I bet you never knew about me.. =-.

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