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27 November 2009 43 Comments

foodart1I went out to dinner with some friends Thanksgiving eve and for the very first time, I realized that if I take all the things I don’t eat, shouldn’t eat or am turned off to eating, there is not much left on a menu.  Granted, the menu was pretty limited there, which didn’t help the situation. But  I am a grown up!  My 9 year old son shouldn’t have a more diverse inventory of foods he’ll eat than I do.

I used to get beyond awful migraines multiple times a month. Brutal. Started getting them at 18  and they were relentless.  Tried everything possible until finally, a doctor suggested I stay away from a list of foods. I’m now down to getting them maybe 4 or  5 times a month. So rule out yogurt, nuts, certain wines, certain cheeses, onions, processed meats.

Another? The women in my family are prone to cystic breasts. So upon advice, I stay away from anything with caffeine.

I grew up with a grandfather who owned a Kosher butcher shop. If you’ve never had kosher meat try grabbing a piece of leather and chew on that for awhile.  There ya go.  Ever been behind the scenes in any butcher shop? Then you’ll understand why the only way I have anything to do with meat is when it’s served to me buried under gravy, sauce or ANYTHING.

And bones? Can’t deal with them either. When my sister served our family individual Cornish hens for her first big home made dinner,  I felt the blood drain from my entire body when she slide a plate of it in front of me.  And the room started spinning on me.  The funny part of that was the look my mom gave me when she saw my sister put that in front of me. It was a look of “I hope she doesn’t pass out at the table: mixed with “suck it up, because it is your sister’s first big dinner”. I sucked it up, because even at 33, my mom said so.

However, I do love ribs. Maybe that’s because the shape of the bones aren’t the typical bone shape? But of course I have an issue here too. The marinades and sauces are so high in sodium that I can’t eat them if I am too close to PMS or my cycle.  The sodium turns into a cranky, irritable witch with a pressure headache.

I won’t eat past 8 PM because I’ll either have indigestion, not be able to fall asleep or have awful dreams.

And I rarely have 3 meals a day. Although it’s not the reason my dad thought it was when I was still living at home.  According to him:

The reason you like soup so much, is because you are too lazy to chew.’ 

Dad? The real truth was that I was too lazy to cook, not chew.  Soup, microwave. Instant meal. Minimal steps. (Or maybe my jaw was too tired from gnawing on Kosher meat.) At this point in my life however, I rarely eat the three meals because ten other things on my “to do” list have a higher priority.

Maybe though, it’s all for the best. If I could and did eat everything I wanted, 3 times  a day I’d be fighting and writing about an entire other food issue:  Self control.

On a side note: I have something new to share with you on December 1st.  Stay tuned….

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  • November 27 2009 at 8:24 PM Jane said:

    My biggest problem is that I like and will eat too many foods. Self control is my nemesis.
    .-= Jane´s last blog ..The ‘I Can’t Believe I Said That’ Post =-.

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  • November 27 2009 at 9:35 PM susan said:

    I’m like you when it comes to limiting foods from my diet. I don’t have migraines, I get acid reflux, so I have very little dairy (use supplements and lactose free skim milk on cereal), and can’t do the spicy foods anymore (or my fave-dill pickles and salami.)

    I am also starting to feel badly about eating beef and have thought about becoming a vegetarian, but I still love a good steak. (Of course my husband mooing at me while I chew doesn’t help things!)

    Don’t worry about your meal choices or amounts because everyone is different and what works for some doesn’t for others…
    .-= susan´s last blog ..Mommy Overload =-.

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  • November 27 2009 at 9:53 PM Tami @ HeartsMakeFamilies
    @hrtsmakefamily on twitter.
    said:

    I hate when I can’t figure out what to eat. Its harder when the choices are limited. But I don’t worry about what others think anymore. We are all different.
    .-= Tami @ HeartsMakeFamilies´s last blog ..Happy Thanksgiving to All =-.

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  • November 27 2009 at 10:11 PM NathanRising said:

    Oh that’s great! That’s just too funny! My main food neurosis is that I can’t have different foods on my plate touch. It wierds me out.
    -Jen
    .-= NathanRising´s last blog ..His Awesome Cuteness =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 6:37 PM

    That’s a new one for me!!! Kinda cute, actually!!

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  • November 27 2009 at 10:24 PM Lucy said:

    Oh, boy do I know all about ‘touchy’ stomachs sometimes I feel like I live off of rice and canned fruit/vegetables. I am not allowed to eat fresh fruit/vegetables because the acid is very bad for my digestive system along with many other foods, so yep, I know how you feel when going out and eating daily. It can be a challenge and I have a family and a husband who likes to eat and they are not always sympathetic, especially my husband. You know, I don’t need to eat all day long but he seems to worry about his belly always being fed and trust me his belly could skip a meal or two (LoL)
    .-= Lucy´s last blog ..Wii, Woo Hoo!!! =-.

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  • November 27 2009 at 10:33 PM Andrea
    @goodgirlgonered on twitter.
    said:

    I think everyone has a little bit of an eating disorder, which really, to me, just means disordered eating. ;) I hear ya, though. Some of your details were too much for me to read cause I don’t eat much meat, and the whole bone thing is a no way, so I had to skim that part!
    .-= Andrea´s last blog ..Black Friday and Sweet Potatoes for Breakfast! =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 6:51 PM

    I know yours…you’re the “anything goes” for breakfast girl :)

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    Andrea
    @goodgirlgonered on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 11:58 PM

    OMG, I am SO glad I just read this comment before bed. Hilarious! I SO am. I try not to be, but when I don’t have the appropriate groceries in the house, whatever works or whatever I’m in the mood for is what’s on my not-quite-a-plate and all the while I’m thinking … is my daughter really eating hers or feeding it to the dog? That’s my kind of breakfast!

    Hmmn, as for the Kosher meats, though. My dad worked in Kosher catering for most of my life, and he and my mom (and maybe even I would dare to say it when I compare what we have down here in NC) think Kosher meat, at least poultry, is a much better cut. Interesting how the take on it varies, no? ;)
    .-= Andrea´s last blog ..How to be Lost =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 8:19 AM

    I have absolutely no recollection of eating chicken when I was younger. That’s so odd, now that I think about it. My grandfather had a butcher shop and his brother had a fish store. Beef and fish for us.

    Perhaps they’ve refined the butchering process but back in the 60′s when i was younger the meat was sooooooo tough. Blech.

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  • November 27 2009 at 10:42 PM Lauren
    @lalabh on twitter.
    said:

    Oh that’s tough! I am with ya though, as a low-fat eating semi-vegetarian it gets tricky. PLUS, I have also been warned against caffeine because of fibrocystic issues :/ (Though I still have a weeee bit)
    I love the cliffhanger you left us with .. can’t stand the suspense! :)

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  • November 27 2009 at 10:55 PM existentialwaitress said:

    I really hear ya on this one. Between the gluten-intolerance thing and a plethora of other health issues I seem to have developed lately, I’m afraid to eat just about everything. Sometimes I think I’m becoming a freak. LOL. Oh yeah, and I have issues with meat too as the result of being forced to eat wild meat throughout my childhood. I don’t like to eat it, but with my other food restrictions I pretty much have to sometimes. Geez.
    .-= existentialwaitress´s last blog ..Happy Thanksgiving! =-.

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  • November 28 2009 at 12:27 AM Lauren
    @thinkspin on twitter.
    said:

    Hilarious. Love the line: “The reason you like soup so much, is because you are too lazy to chew.”

    I can’t eat food that appears on the plate in its original living form, shell fish not included. I have the same food issues you do, i.e., eating after a certain time and ingredients that exacerbate hormonal symptoms. Migraines are excruciating. I used to get them once a month when I had my period. It doesn’t happen consistently any more. The migraines or my period. At times, I got sick to my stomach whenever I had a migraine. I’m sorry you get them as often as you do. It really sucks although you seem to have it under control.
    .-= Lauren´s last blog ..Happy Thanksgiving or Fowl Talk. =-.

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  • November 28 2009 at 1:18 AM Lee the Hot Flash Queen said:

    Kosher meat is the WORST. And you have to pluck the dang chicken!! So, I sent you a contact doo hickey…but shoot me an email at lbrochstein at comcast dot net.
    .-= Lee the Hot Flash Queen´s last blog ..Santa’s Pissing Himself =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 6:55 PM

    Got it. Forgot about the furry chickens!

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  • November 28 2009 at 5:47 AM Martha said:

    Stopping by from VGNO! Maybe I will print your post and read it before every meal… it might help me lose some weight! I used to get frequent migraines, but I guess now that I am 50ish, they have passed for the most part. We never did figure what triggered mine!
    .-= Martha´s last blog ..Friday Fragments, Give Me Your Best Shot, Weekend Reflections, VGNO and Virtual Cookie Exchange =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 6:56 PM

    Hi Martha! Thanks for the visit!

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  • November 28 2009 at 8:33 AM DG at Diaryofamadbathroom said:

    I think food neuroses run deep among women. When I cook dinner for my friends, I have to run through a litany of don’ts in order to create the menu – this one doesn’t eat chicken, that one hates beef, I don’t like fish, someone else hates bone food, another is averse to white food.

    Too lazy to chew huh? That’s my kinda lazy.
    .-= DG at Diaryofamadbathroom´s last blog ..Spike the Hotness Monster is Annoyed at All of You =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 6:57 PM

    White food? LOL. Marshmallows are a no-go?

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  • November 28 2009 at 12:01 PM Noelle said:

    ooooh, the migraine thing stinks. but i so wish i had something other than a self-control issue.

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  • November 28 2009 at 2:43 PM Brittany at Mommy Words
    @mommywords on twitter.
    said:

    Oh Nancy I am afraid of most menus. My husband is a huge foodie and to be honest I used to be better at trying things but now I really have a very limited menu myself. I am allergic to shellfish. Most meats other than poultry scare me. I do not like bones eitehr. I do not feel well if I eat any butter or cream sauces. I have a major consistency issue that prevents me from eating things that everyone else loves like cheesecake. I could go on and on. In fact since I am writing a book here maybe I will write a post on this too!

    I love fruit and cheese and bread and wine and chicken. Oh and most pasta or rice dishes.

    I am so on board with you on this one! Actually, on most things. I hope I meet you one day. I think you rock!
    .-= Brittany at Mommy Words´s last blog ..A Whole New Miles =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:07 PM

    Ya know,in my 20′s and early 30′s I was a size 6ish. Then the migraine diet came along, then caffeine thing came along (gone was chocolate), then the 8pm thing came along. Then kids came along so my 3 meals a day were gone. Now I’m a size 2ish. I’d rather be the size 6 and eating what I want again.

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  • November 28 2009 at 2:45 PM Brittany at Mommy Words
    @mommywords on twitter.
    said:

    ps your blog is one I come to by memory – no reader needed. I always look forward to your posts and I am so jealous of your ability to write for just the right amount of words. Mine are like whiney novellas sometimes! Just a little bloggy xoxo from me to you!
    .-= Brittany at Mommy Words´s last blog ..Before I Had Kids: Football =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:08 PM

    I visit yours by heart as well. You were one of the first blogs I came across when I started blogging and you’ll always be one of my favorites.

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  • November 28 2009 at 4:16 PM Naomi said:

    Awesome post! You are a fantastic writer. We went through a big gluten-free, dairy-free, egg-free phase in our house here a while ago. We were trying to figure out the cause of stomach aches for my then 4 year old. It sucked, to say the least. I felt like we couldn’t eat anything normal and couldn’t shop at any regular grocery stores or eat out. But it did make me appreciate how easy it is to cook now that we finally discovered that it was none of those things that were bothering my son. Whew! Anyway, I get you about food intolerances. They are tricky! Thansk for the great post.

    organicmotherhoodwithcoolwhip.com

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:17 PM

    That’s great that your son doesn’t have to deal with a restricted diet now! I always feel bad for children who can’t eat what the other children have at parties and in school.

    Thanks for visiting, Naomi!

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  • November 28 2009 at 5:12 PM Beth said:

    While I’ll eat most anything, I do have a lot of food rules. Like you, I prefer no bones. I don’t like my meat to resemble the animal it once was. And don’t get me started about all the foods that can’t touch. It drives my husband crazy.
    .-= Beth´s last blog ..Them’s fightin’ words =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:23 PM

    ANOTHER food-can’t-touch person! I have never heard of this before! It’s kinda cute. LOL.

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  • November 28 2009 at 6:27 PM Unknown Mami said:

    I should limit some of the things I eat, but I don’t. Although, I did give up caffeine and I don’t think I will ever go back.
    .-= Unknown Mami´s last blog ..Fragmented Fridays on the Fly Edition =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:26 PM

    I’m like a crazed person if I have caffeine now!

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  • November 28 2009 at 7:26 PM amie
    @AmyatGITR on twitter.
    said:

    So in order to keep breastfeeding my daughter I cut out the major allergic foods–wheat, eggs, dairy, soy, nuts and peanuts, fish and shellfish. I did it for about eight months. I am still breastfeeding and I am still not eating wheat or nuts and limiting soy. Joy to the world.

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  • November 28 2009 at 7:27 PM amie
    @AmyatGITR on twitter.
    said:

    Oh and I am a vegetarian normally and had to eat meat in order to have something in my diet. yuck.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:27 PM

    Just hope it wasn’t Kosher meat. Blech.

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  • November 28 2009 at 7:55 PM Traci
    @38traci on twitter.
    said:

    Wow! I can see why you wold want to stick with soup — it’s just easier to stay within the parameters — I love the rib exception, however.
    :-)

    I should do better, myself. We’re in the process of cutting out processed foods (no pun intended) and adding more raw and whole foods to our diet. I’m not sure if it’s harder for the kids or me.

    I love your food art.
    .-= Traci´s last blog ..Day Ninety – One or Thanksgiving =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:28 PM

    Wasn’t that picture cool? If you click the photo link it takes you to a very cool website.

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  • November 29 2009 at 2:49 AM submom
    @submom on twitter.
    said:

    Love what your dad said about soup! Although I do LOVE soup so very much. Do you know Malfada? :-)
    http://www.zonalatina.com/zldata02.htm

    I love surprises! Yet I can’t stand the suspense. You are so cruel to toy with us…
    .-= submom´s last blog ..Left-Handed =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:30 PM

    How funny! Cute cartoon. I’d never heard of it before…so thank you!

    Surprises are fun!

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  • November 29 2009 at 9:49 AM beth aka confusedhomemaker
    @beths_confusion on twitter.
    said:

    I can be food neurotic too, but for me it’s not so much types of food but one is (I have many) my food CAN NOT touch. I’m not kidding. I don’t even like when others mix their food up, even though “It all goes to the same place.” Yea, that might be true but it doesn’t need to look disgusting on the way down & you should try to taste differences in your food.

    So your food art, while nice to look at freaks me out. :D
    .-= beth aka confusedhomemaker´s last blog ..Nativity Triptych =-.

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:32 PM

    How is it I have never heard about the food touching thing before this post?? It kinda makes me laugh. (sorry)

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    beth aka confusedhomemaker
    @beths_confusion on twitter.


    Replied on : November 30th, 2009 at 10:25 AM

    Don’t worry you and the rest of my family & friends. I also eat my Starburst in a certain order of colors. Yea, there’s more…talk about food issues :P
    .-= beth aka confusedhomemaker´s last blog ..Le Creuset Giveaway: Food Made in Love =-.

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  • November 29 2009 at 1:29 PM Julie@JulieChats
    @JulieChats on twitter.
    said:

    My problem is portion control, but after reading your post, maybe I should put a few more things in the “do not eat” list!

    Hope you had a nice Thanksgiving! And Happy VGNO!

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    Nancy
    @ifevolution on twitter.


    Replied on : November 29th, 2009 at 7:33 PM

    Happy VGNO to you too!

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  • November 30 2009 at 6:37 AM Carolee said:

    I’m not toooo picky :-)

    I am starting to get a bit grossed out by meat lately- it seems you can’t get a good cut anymore.

    I remember the day when a beef roast was beefy with nice rich juices for gravy. I swear the meat these days has very little taste and is tough 1/2 the time.

    Oh yeah, Happy Extremely Late VGNO!
    .-= Carolee´s last blog ..Stuffed like a turkey and other senseless dribble… =-.

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